Hello😁

In every organisation, there ought to be standardized rules and procedures. Everyone knows what they're doing because everybody is following the rules. This is quite expedient. Right?

Let us look into this together. Don't you think it is worth now just playing out what some of those downsides are in some situations?
Most times, following strict rules is slow moving, internally focused and disempowering. It is actually the case that the people inside a process, almost by definition find themselves following strict rules rather than thinking of the big picture. 🤔

Individuals should be allowed to figure out for themselves what to do as a way of coordinating. Procedures are important but may not be needed to tell people how to think about an issue where their thoughtful creativity can fill in that gap you know.

That's the way that the free market economy works too. We just give people an opportunity to collaborate and trade with whoever they like, and we use prices as a mechanism to figure out how best to make that trade work.

What are the benefits of this model? Well it's very responsive because we're allowing individuals close to the front line to make their own choices. What that means is that they're responding and adapting to what's happening in the business world. It's also very energizing if you're in charge of making your own choices as it becomes very rigid if on the other hand.

In allusion to practice in the business context, i'm going to give you a nice a nice METAPHOR from the world of traffic planning. Get your refreshing beverage and enjoy the story😁

Now, there was a very famous chap from Holland a few years ago. Well,  he was famous within his world. His name was Hans Monderman, and he was a Dutch road traffic engineer. He died a few years ago, but he was quite influential in terms of designing some very well regarded experiments in the design of town planning systems back in the late 90s and early 2000s.

He said to himself, the trouble with our road systems, particularly in a developed country like, like Holland, like the U.K, is that we've created roads which are just too complicated, which have got too many signposts, too many traffic lights, too many rules. So, whenever there's an accident we create even more signposts, and even more rules to make sure that the accident doesn't happen again.  We're creating gridlock. What we should be doing is going in the exact opposite direction. So he said, to make our road systems safer, and more smooth, we need to make them more dangerous. We actually have to strip out an awful lot of the clutter that had been created by well-meaning planners. So, he managed to persuade a couple of towns and municipalities in Holland, and one of them was this town in, in northern Holland, called Dracton. He managed to persuade them to try his slightly theoretical ideas.

He said to them, take your traditional town centers with particular ones which are really kind of gridlocked, and strip out all of the clutter. Strip out all the lights and all the markings, and create an open space. He called it Shared Space. We won't have a separate road and pavement.

Now imagine you are a driver and you are approaching an intersection where suddenly nobody's telling you what to do. What is our response? It's pretty obvious what your response is. You basically take stock, you sort of slow down a little bit. You look around you. You figure out a way through that intersection, without hitting anybody.

What he predicted exactly happened. They did a very careful before and after studies in this town and they discovered that, not only was the traffic speed through these intersections created but actually there were no additional accidents. So the town planning metaphor links, hopefully in a fairly clear way, what you as a leader should do in your organisation. It's also important that as a worker in an organization, you must have positive ideas for the success of your company too so that it won't be in jeopardy due to mediocrity.

Really, this notion can make our actions visible to one another in a way that actually helps everybody to coordinate more effectively. And in fact, indeed to make the world a better place. So, incorporate this as a leader.

End of story😊😊😊

                     

                      

Grab your refreshing beverage and get ready to think about three words, not i love you.😁

Since the lockdown began in Lagos, Nigeria to curb the spread of the Covid 19, my sweet liitle nephew has been around to keep my company. So, i want to share with you what i learnt from him for the past few weeks now.

Have you noticed kids who disagree with other kid(s) and are crying one moment are back playing with the same kids the next moment? Did you know that kids easily forgive, forget, and move on with expectations of happy moments together? Kids don't keep grudges against each other.
They forgive easily.

This virtue in kids on forgiveness atrracted me to dig in to get a deeper understanding of the situation.  Adults have piled up baggage of memories, feelings and crushed ambitions. We, teenagers, youths,adults, have all dealt with putting up fronts, facades, fake emotions, etc. in an attempt to fit in and get along with others. Indeed, this has made it difficult to forgive and eventually we spend time being hurt over and over again.

Children in their purest form, do not accumulate the baggage nor have they disguised themselves to fit in. However, it will do us more good if we learn from kids about forgiving others, being forgiven, and moving on without wasting time being hurt.

I noticed that kids pour out how they feel about people that hurt them in an humorous manner. Once they feel offended, they stay away from for you but in few seconds they want to be wrapped in your arms. You should also show your emotions beacuse it helps to eliminate the guesswork in people dealing with you and with how you deal with them. Say it out, talk to someone about how you feel. In fact, it opens the door to more meaningful and deeper relationship with people.

Kids figure out the problem and resolve to make amends quickly. Kids understand this point better than most adults. Don't feel too special, otherwise you will be less likely to be open-minded and more likely to see the other person at fault. This paradigm makes it more difficult to forgive and more likely to see the situation in a winner/loser scenario. In fact, we are all special, but when it comes to forgiveness, we are better served to assume a humble posture.

I know you really don't want to waste time being hurt.
The real answer is i forgive you.
The real answer to free your broken heart from hurt and pain is to forgive. When you start to forgive you live in the now, neither in the future nor in the past. Forgiving allows the healing to begin and frees you to move forward with an unencumbered mind like a child.😁😁
#i forgive you
#stay safe
Do well to share some of your experiences with kids in allusion to forgiveness.😊

We've got to have wisdom. Wisdom will keep you safe and make you happier than you thought! So let's agree to live and learn.😊

In the beginning, it feels just like you thought it would but as the relationship progresses you experience disappointment and you feel betrayed or deceived. Yet, rather than allowing the disappointment to uncover the lie and clarify that it's not the man who will make you whole, you are prone to think, maybe this wasn't the man that will make me whole but the next one.🙄
So you schedule another appointment in your heart and take your brokenness into another relationship where you accumulate hurts and wounds because it didn't work out again. So you find yourself searching for the remains of your heart among the ruins of yet another failed relationship. 😔
The rest is history.

Many women have assumed that true happiness comes through relationship with a man. So they postpone their happiness and wholeness until the right man shows up in their life. Whenever they talk about happiness or wholeness, they immediately mention the man who isn't there or a partner who isn't right.  Do you know that you can so wait so long for something you think will bring you happiness and as you fix your gaze on that one desire, you miss your happiness because you don't recognise the present opportunities for joy. Think about it. 🤔

Is your desire for a love relationship from a sense of being incomplete?
The gist is that wholeness is an understanding of your identity, an established feeling of acceptance, value, joy, peace etc. Your wholeness comes from within. It doesn't rely on outward stimuli or circumstances that constantly shift.Wholeness doesn't come from a relationship. I know it is running through your mind that there is a capacity for happiness in a relationship between a man and a woman which is very true.😁
However, your happiness shouldn't be based on another person's participation.

Wholeness is an issue of becoming complete for yourself. The high a woman receives temporary wholeness in a relationship can lead to pursue the wrong man in an attempt to recapture that sense of fulfillment. You must understand that you can achieve fulfillment for your own self. You cannot have a relationship with a complete man by being incomplete yourself.

Don't be a woman searching for a relationship with a man based on the need to feel whole, happy or satisfied. Here is an exercise for you..List five things you want . Look at your list and ask yourself if it will be possible to have these things and still be unhappy. If you are still unhappy, then you are focusing on the wrong list.
Ask yourself if your desire for a love relationship comes from a sense of brokenness. It's up to you when the brokenness circle in your life will end.

Drum rolls😁🥁
You have to break this cycle by spending quality time with yourself, take a practice that centers you, balance your self esteem with your self criticism, develop a daily gratitude practice and show yourself appreciation, go for a treat ( I love this in particular),add value to yourself and most importantly take note that God does a work of wholeness from within us that cannot be affected by outward circumstances.
Breathe!😊