Some of the good qualities of a successful, very liked and happy person are that he is caring, helpful and above all he is transparent. All this points to the fact that most of the things about such a person’s life are like an open book. He does not hide anything – especially from his family, friends and relatives.

Yet there are a few things which one should always keep secret. This is so because telling the world about them however much you share and care  just won’t bring you any good. 

Here are some of the most crucial things you should always keep secret.

Your Future Plans

It is first and most important tip. Never reveal your serious planning, especially if it is business plan or personal ambitious plan. Keep silent about these until you’ve actually put them in action and the results after started pouring in. This strategy has many benefits. First it safeguards you from anyone more aggressive or resourceful in picking up your million dollar idea and implementing it better and faster than you.

Secondly, the ideas and plans often have weak links and unnoticed spots which you haven’t noticed. Hence, there are always chances that someone intelligent may pick them improve on it easily and proceed with a more robust and fail proof plan. Since you might have spent so much of time, money, energy on thinking, researching etc. you may now get too disheartened to even try to implement your plan.

Thirdly, there are a lot of people who are good at nothing but only know how to find faults and discourage a person. Since none of the ideas are perfect, if you reveal to them they may kill your motivation, destroying the idea completely.

Fourthly, in the event of failure of your plan (for whatever reason), some people will regularly remind you of your failure and make fun of you. This might dissuade you from trying anything ambitious in future.

The lesson here is that if there is something really important, something that can change your entire life, keep it to yourself. Grow it like you nurture a plant, with care and attention.

Your Goals and Strategies

This is a natural extension of the previous point.

According to a few experiments carried out, telling others your strategies or goals to others satisfies your self-identity and after that you are less motivated to put in the hard work needed. As per the tests conducted, those who kept their intentions secret were more likely to achieve them than those who made them public and were acknowledged by others.

In case you disclose your strategies and goals, you can blame it on “premature sense of completeness” which leaves you lesser motivation to go all out to achieve your goals. In addition, if you fail to achieve, you become a loser, and there are always sadists and enemies who are happy to point fingers at you.

Your Income, Finance and Wealth

This point hardly requires any convincing that you should keep your income, finance and wealth a secret. The harsh fact is that we live in a materialistic world where people constantly judge each other based on income and financial worth. Sadly, other qualities like education, talents, simple living, spirituality are not attached much value.  Even most fair individuals will succumb to judging without even thinking about it.

We all want success, and not failure. In this world, the most superficial form of success is money.  You may prefer to have true friends who do not judge you on the basis of how much money and wealth you have. Rather let there be friendship, bonding and relationship of you being a true human being and your value system.

Discussing incomes usually turns into a “who-makes-more” curiosity leaving you a low feeling and depression because you might find that you can’t afford the things you would like or you deserve to be paid more than them.

If you are earning good money, it is nobody’s business what you earn and how you earn! If you have it, feel good, don’t go and brag about it. People are going to be jealous then they will be around you all day. Money can corrupt friends and relatives.

Also you would not want to seek unwanted attention from strangers / robbers / thieves / donation seekers.

Your Love Life

The only people who should know the intimate details of what goes on in your bedroom are your partner and you.

If you are in a loving, committed relationship such as marriage, keep your intimate information between each other. It's not for the public to know.

Psychotherapy Counselling

We’ve all had problems and bad situations in our lives. And yes, smart and good people come out of it – sometimes on their own and sometimes with the help of professionals like psychotherapists / psychologists / counsellor etc.

There’s no shame about past incidents in your life but this is one of the things you may definitely not talk about with friends, relatives, boss, co-workers – ever. The word may spread like jungle fire. People are quick to form opinions and it may hit you very hard in your professional life including career prospects besides your reputation in your social circle. 

Family Conflicts or Problems in Personal Life

Every family has problems, at one point of time or other. There is nothing to be ashamed of. This could be because of difference of opinion, clash of interest, generation gap, or any other reason. Yet it is never recommended that one goes around revealing the details of the problems in the family or even mentioning that there is a conflict of sorts going on.

Under such situations, always remind yourself that the less you reveal such secrets to outsiders, the safer and peaceful you will be. Keep in mind that family conflicts are usually the result of expelling negative energy and soon will pass. Such things can and should be resolved within the privacy of your own home and between loved ones. 

Your philanthropy, donations to charity

It is not a good idea to reveal the details of your charities. Charitable acts are divine and out of your inner feelings. That it is why one must treasure them. In certain societies, it is always recommended that “your left hand should not know what your right hand is giving”.

Do not neutralize your good karma by bragging about your philanthropic activities because others can label you as a self praising arrogant person.

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Anger management helps you recognize frustrations early and resolve them in a way that allows you to express your needs — and keeps you calm and in control.

Some signs that you need help controlling your anger include:
Regularly feeling that you have to hold in your anger.
Persistent negative thinking and focusing on negative experiences.
Constant feelings of irritation, impatience and hostility.
Frequent arguments with others that escalate frustrations.
Physical violence, such as hitting your partner or children or starting fights.
Threats of violence against people or property
Out-of-control or frightening behavior, such as breaking things or driving recklessly.
Avoiding situations because of anxiety or depression about anger.

Learning behavioral skills is an essential part of anger management. A number of books and websites offer information about ways to manage anger. But, if learning skills on your own isn't enough to help you stay calm and in control, you may benefit from seeing a mental health professional or by taking an anger management class.
It can take a little work to find an anger management program, a counselor specializing in anger management or other resources. Here are some places to start your search:
Ask your primary care doctor or mental health professional for a referral to a program or counselor.
Search trustworthy online sites for resources, such as blogs, support groups or books.
Ask someone who completed an anger management program or took other steps to manage anger.
Check with your employee assistance program
(EAP).

When you start working on anger management, identify your triggers and the physical and emotional signs that occur as you begin to get angry. Recognizing and managing these warning signs early is an important step in controlling your anger. Pay attention to and make a list of:

Stressors that commonly trigger or worsen your anger, such as frustration with a child or partner, financial stress, traffic issues, or problems with a co-worker
Physical signs that your feelings of anger are rising — for example, sleeping poorly, clenching your jaw, a racing heart or driving too fast.
Emotional signs that your anger is on the rise, such as the feeling you want to yell at someone or that you're holding in what you really want to say.

Generally, counseling for anger management focuses on learning specific behavioral skills and ways of thinking so you can cope with anger. If you have any other mental health conditions, such as anxiety, depression or addiction, you may need to also work on these issues for anger management methods to be effective.

The aim of counseling and anger management classes is to teach you to:
Manage factors that may make you more likely to get angry, such as improving sleep so you're not tired and keeping stress low by using stress management skills.
Identify situations that are likely to set you off and respond in nonaggressive ways before you get angry.
Learn specific skills to use in situations likely to trigger your anger.
Recognize when you aren't thinking logically about a situation, and correct your thinking
Calm yourself down when you begin to feel upset, for example, by using relaxation skills or taking a break.
Express your feelings and needs assertively (but not aggressively) in situations that make you feel angry.
Focus on problem-solving in frustrating situations — instead of using energy to be angry, you'll learn how to redirect your energy to resolve the situation.
Communicate effectively to defuse anger and resolve conflicts.

Results
Improving your ability to manage anger has several benefits. You'll feel as if you have more control when life's challenges turn up the heat. Knowing how to express yourself assertively means you won't feel the frustration of holding in your anger to avoid offending someone.

Anger management can help you:
Communicate your needs.
 Learn how to recognize and talk about things that frustrate you, rather than letting your anger flare up.
 Knowing how to express yourself can help you avoid impulsive and hurtful words or actions, resolve conflicts, and maintain positive relationships.
Maintain better health. The stress caused by ongoing angry feelings can increase your risk of health problems, such as headaches, difficulty sleeping, digestive issues, heart problems and high blood pressure.
Prevent psychological and social problems linked to anger. Examples include depression, problems at work, legal difficulties and troubled relationships.
Use your frustration to get things done. Anger expressed inappropriately can make it difficult for you to think clearly, and may result in poor judgment. You'll learn to use feelings of frustration and anger as motivators to work harder and take positive action.
Help avoid addictive escapes. People who always feel angry may turn to alcohol, drugs or food to decrease feelings of anger. Instead, you can use anger management techniques to keep your cool and maintain control, without adding an additional problem to your life.